Wednesday, August 17, 2005

Raising children or raising adults?

Recently I attended a seminar hosted by Life College called Counseling Teens. The speaker, Dr. Larry Keefauver, not only shared his wisdom on the topic but was also very entertaining.
Obviously I am not going to cram an 8 hour seminar into one blog. Below are just some thoughts that are still lingering in my mind.

As parents, we raise adults, not children. This concept taught by Dr. Larry tops my list.
What does it mean? Basically what we do and say during our children's early years is going to shape their future as an adult. You are probably saying "yeah, I already knew that!". So my question would be, "what are you doing about it?" or "what did you do about it?" (depending on whether you are reaching, have reached or have already past those teenage years). Wisdom is the correct application of knowledge.
Sitting in that seminar just reaffirmed what I already believed: If I want to avoid (or at least reduce) teenage problems, I have to start doing the right things now when my Karina (4 yrs) and Damus (2 yrs) still thinks I'm the greatest mom on earth.

So, how do we raise adults? No, it's not making sure our children have an overabundance of tuition classes or extra curricular activities. Flooding our children with material luxuries is not going to hit the jackpot either. It's all about relationship and communication!

With reference to teenagers and quality time with parents, Dr. Larry gave a very disheartening but true to the heart statistic: On an average, mothers spend less than 15 minutes a day with her teenager and fathers, less than 7 minutes a day. Reflect back on your own teenage years to see if this is true. Reflect on your own children to see if this is true.

It is my opinion that communication is the key to any relationship. What can we do to foster such communication when children are young?

  1. Read to your child everyday. It doesn't matter if they can read on their own. Read to them. Use this time to open discussions. Make it as relaxed as possible and not a time to question or test their intellect.
  2. Play with your children. Let them dictate what, where and how to do. Don't be afraid to be silly. And most importantly, don't view it as a waste of time. I know it can seem so when the laundry and dirty dishes are calling. But they can wait for 15 minutes. Bonding is priceless and outranks housework anytime.
  3. Focus on the positive. Don't you agree that parents tend to be on an automatic negative mode. It is so easy to point out everything our children do wrong? But it takes mental effort to give praise and speak uplifting words. Good news is that it is a habit that can be cultivated. Go ahead and give at least 10 praises to your children tomorrow.
  4. Family night once a week. Come together as a family once a week where parents share important messages of truth (such as obedience, honesty, respect, kindness, forgiveness, integrity etc...). Communication is a two way street so children get to air out their feelings as well. This is also a time for the family to have activities together and not forgetting, dessert and treats afterwards.
  5. Making house rules known and consistent disciplinary action. Children need to know what is expected of them. Expectations must be reasonable of course. Don't expect a 3 year old to sit through 1 hour of homework.
    They must also learn that for every action, there is a consequence. They must be given the freedom to choose their consequences whether it be good or bad. However remember that our main goal is "raising adults". Discipline with love as love overcomes all boundaries. Therefore always check that we do not manipulate, dominate or intimidate.

Investing our time in our children takes more effort than investing in material wealth. We must be patient in our sacrifice for our efforts will only show forth in the distant future. Let us make deposits in this intangible bank today so we may be made rich in the days our knees become feeble and eyesight dim.


  1. Hot Stock For Your Review!!

    +++++++++++Current Profile+++++++++++

    Faceprint Global Solutions (FCPG)

    Current Price $0.15

    A company with hot new identity solution products

    and licenses with over 40 current governmental and

    non-governmental contracts in negotiations.


    FCPG is now offering the world's leading encryption software to IBM's North American clients.

    Will It Still Go Higher?

    Does It Sound New and Exciting To You?

    Please Review Exactly What this Company Does.


    Faceprint Global Solutions (FCPG) is pleased to announce that its European partner, Keyvelop, has teamed up with IBM's Partner World Industry Networks to deliver customer software requirement solutions for the international healthcare industry.

    With FCPG owning the exclusive North American rights to distribute the worlds leading encryption and transmission software developed by Keyvelop, FCPG is poised to capture large volumes of sales generated by customers currently using IBM's software in the healthcare and other industries.

    With traceability and security now deemed a serious business priority, companies are increasingly focused on employing procedures and controls designed to ensure the authenticity, integrity and confidentiality of electronic records.

    \"This is a very positive move for FCPG and for Keyvelop,\" said FCPG CEO Pierre Cote. \"We are very happy about the decision to go with IBM. This is a continuation of the progress made by everyone associated with FCPG and its partners.\"

    Buell Duncan, IBM's general manager of ISV & Developer Relations commented, \"Collaborating with Keyvelop will ensure that we develop open solutions that are easy to maintain and cost effective for our customers in the healthcare and life sciences industry.\"

    Among other things, this new software technology which is currently being used by a number of European healthcare companies, is used to send any file, regardless of format or size. Encryption keys, evidence of transmission integrity with fingerprint calculation, time-stamping of all actions and status record updating, pre-checking sender and receiver identities, validating file opening dates are part of Keyvelop features.

    About FacePrint Global Solutions, Inc.

    FCPG operates a business, which develops and delivers a variety of technology solutions, including biometric software applications on smart cards and other support mediums (apometric solutions). FCPG's products provide biometric solutions for identity authentication and a host of smart card- and biometrics-related hardware peripherals and software applications. Apometrix, FCPG's wholly-owned subsidiary, combines on-card or in-chip multi-application management solutions with best-of-breed 'in-card matching' biometrics. Keyvelop's secure digital envelope solution and Apometrix's on-card biometrics work together to produce the winning combination in the fields of security, traceability and identity management.


    The examples above show the Awesome, Earning Potential of little known Companies That Explode onto Investor's Radar Screens. This stock will not be a Secret for long. Then You May Feel the Desire to Act Right Now! And Please Watch This One Trade!

    GO FCPG!

    All statements made are our express opinion only and should be treated as such. We may own, take position and sell any securities mentioned at any time. Any statements that express or involve discussions with respect to predictions, goals, expectations, beliefs, plans, projections, objectives, assumptions or future events or performance are not statements of historical fact and may be \"forward looking statements.\" Forward looking statements are based on expectations, estimates and projections at the time the statements are made that involve a number of risks and uncertainties which could cause actual results or events to differ materially from those presently anticipated. This profile is in no way affiliated with the featured company. We were compensated one thousand dollars from third party (IR Marketing) to distribute this report. Forward looking statements in this action may be identified through the use of words such as: \"projects\", \"foresee\", \"expects\". in compliance with Section 17(b), we disclose the holding of FGS shares prior to the publication of this report. Be aware of an inherent conflict of interest resulting from such holdings due to our intent to profit from the liquidation of these shares. Shares may be sold at any time, even after positive statements have been made regarding the above company. Since we own shares, there is an inherent conflict of interest in our statements and opinions. Readers of this publication are cautioned not to place undue reliance on forward-looking statements, which are based on certain assumptions and expectations involving various risks and uncertainties that could cause results to differ materially from those set forth in the forward- looking statements. This is not solicitation to buy or sell stocks, this text is for informational purpose only and you should seek professional advice from registered financial advisor before you do anything related with buying or selling stocks, penny stocks are very high risk and you can lose your entire investment.

  2. Thanks for the excellent Blog site you've provided.
    Want Advise and Information About Auto Cheap Insurance"
    -- But Can't Get Started Check out this site Auto Cheap Insurance

  3. A job well done! inspiring blog
    Don't miss visiting this site about cartoon animals
    Lots of information about cartoon animals



Don't go without saying something. I would love to read your comments. BUT no junk comments please.